Când spun „Nu” mă simt vinovat

Manuel J. Smith shows how to say no without guilt. He shows how people use blame to control others. They also use their own rules to gain control. This self-help guide is for those who find it hard to speak up. It deals with life at home and at work.

Smith uses sample talks to teach firm, clear speech. He shows how to repeat a firm reply. He teaches ways to ease pressure and share feelings. The goal is to resist control but still talk and reach agreement. His examples show friends who ask for favors. They also show kids who act out and bosses who seek extra work. These skills can help in talks with coworkers and sales staff, too.

Smith says each person must judge their own choices. No one can take charge of someone else’s joy or peace of mind. He asks why both praise and harsh judgments can cause unease. Some people find it hard to accept praise. He links this to letting others judge their worth.

Smith was an American psychologist who lived from 1934 to 2007. He helped shape training that teaches people to speak up. He also wrote several self-help books. Schools and other groups came to use this book as a training reference. Liana Haidar translated this edition from English.